Of course Mom is Pissed!
Have kids, they said. It’ll give you a brand new perspective on life. The days will be brighter.
This sounds like an advertisement for diapers. Don’t get it wrong. Having children is magical. The fact that a woman’s body can carry a baby, provide the environment for it to grow, and then, after delivering this precious baby, nourish this vulnerable, unable-to-care-for-itself, wonderful ball of cells is awe-inspiring.
There are moments that will bring you to tears. The newborn smells and snuggles. The first steps. The first “mama”. Every other milestone that the child achieves can be fantastic, and it is important to cherish them because they fly by too quickly.
But, the other reality that people often don’t talk about is how hard it is to parent. In 2025, 67% of mothers are working. Some because they have to make ends meet, and often a two-income household is required considering the cost of things these days.
Some, because they are driven and love their career, wanting to achieve great things and be celebrated in the “adult-world”. There are also some that prefer to go out to work because few jobs are harder than raising a child at home. It is without a doubt, the hardest job in the world. There are a ton of things about parenting that will make one angry.
First, let’s start with the insomnia that goes along with caring for children through the night, especially when they’re young. The feeling of being "touched-out" after hours of a baby clinging to you. As they get older, there is always more to do. No better way to be cranky than to be constantly exhausted and overwhelmed. Your to-do list grows daily, only for another pile of laundry to stare at you, that return to Amazon you have to drop by today is still at the door, and school supplies you have to buy. The kids need to get to cheer, football, and piano lessons, all scheduled at the same time. Oh, and the bickering. The rare time one child is supportive of the other, rather than one picking on the other’s clothes choice, music they listen to, the “weirdness” of their friends. All you hear is "Mom... Mom..Mom.." every time you turn around. Your head is about ready to explode.
"Children don’t come with an instruction manual, and even if they did, you would be absolutely sure, you have the manual for the wrong model."
Parents have a difficult decision to make. You want to give them a better life than the one that you had, but then if you do, and they’re spoiled, you now have spoiled children to contend with. Parenting is about giving kids what they need…and some of what they want. However, this is a “feed me now!!” generation. Decades before, if you didn’t want what was made for dinner, you went to bed hungry…and no one was dying from this. Now, dinner is made, and after a child turns their nose up to it, quickly the restaurant is opened and they will request everything other than what was served…and often, they get it because it is easier (in the short run) than arguing about this too.
Parenting is rough. It is exhausting, frustrating, and infuriating. Of course, mom is pissed. Yet, saying you shouldn’t be. It is for good reason. Welcome to reality. Stuffing the tension. Not owning, processing, and finding ways to let off steam in healthy ways will lead to real problems when it comes to discipline. It will be explosive, disproportionate, and run the risk of being abusive. Getting angry is what a normal person would do. So, no. You’re not crazy. You’re pissed. Own it. Take it easy on yourself. Find ways to de-escalate, and don’t lose track of the big picture. There are good reasons to be angry. There are explanations, but no excuses to hurt the people you love because you are furious. #AdjustTheFlame.